The Dooryard: To me, Lance Bass is out

To me, Lance Bass is out

One of the biggest problems, if not the biggest, we're facing in acquiring non-discrimination and marriage rights for gay people is gay people. Not necessarily you and me; but other gay people - the closeted ones. Every time a well-known person comes out of the closet, it helps our cause. Unfortunately, so few of them have done it. Instead, they stay in the closet, fueling rumor and speculation, building the notion that being labelled gay is bad.

Take Lance Bass, for example. There have been rumors about him being gay for years. Hell, I just assumed that after he appeared on two episodes of Kathy Griffin's show last year that he was waaaaay out. But, the mainstream press won't touch that one because he hasn't held a press conference at The Abbey to declare he's gay. Blogs and Web sites have been tossing around the rumor for a while, especially with the number of times he's been seen in public with Reichen Lheihmkhuhlh. But, because he hasn't called a press conference, "upstanding" reporters just won't touch it.

Well, as far as I'm concerned, he's out. He has made a public statement. In Provincetown this past weekend, I saw him with Reichen and some other super-gay friends at the Atlantic House. The A-House is a gay bar. In fact, the last straight person to step foot in there was Anderson Cooper.

The next day, I saw Lance at a general store with Reichen and the little gay friends. Other friends reported seeing him at the A-House other nights.

If you go to Provincetown, and go to a gay bar, out in the public where hundreds of people can see you (even if you are wearing an Adidas hat pulled down to your waist), you are OUT! If you're going to take advantage of some of the freedoms that gay people before you have opened up for you, you are OUT!

Disclaimer: I did not see him touching anyone's dick. And even if I had, that wouldn't mean he isn't like 25% of the straight guys out there - "experimental." But, did I see him in a gay bar in the gayest town on the gayest weekend in America? Yes. Have I heard other stories beyond the one I've told here? Yes. Have I outed him here? No. He has outed himself. And good for him! When he finally embraces it (hurry up already!), it will have a positive impact on all of our lives.

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Posted by: Money Fix | November 17, 2011 at 08:30 AM

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Posted by: weightloss | June 29, 2007 at 09:28 AM

Wow thats crazy.. i kno im a little late but damn.. but i like it tho because im gay!!

Posted by: Ashley | April 04, 2007 at 10:10 AM

WOW....Is it really true? I knew Lance was queer the minute I saw him on THE VIEW with his tiny little chihuahua in his arms!!!!I hear he's a bottom and likes to get it......UP THERE!!!!Hey,it's his business.His sexal preference is his sexual preference.These days,we have learned to tolerate things out of "THE BOX" and realize that not everyone is krazy for the opposite sex or the pussy-you know!

Posted by: Robert Franza | December 19, 2006 at 12:11 PM

I agree with Lance 100%-if rumours abound about your sexuality-than who the hell are you kidding by denying it anyway? As if there is something wrong with homosexuality in 2006.Only the perpetually ignorant or religiously mind-less fanatics try to perpetuate that age old myth that being gay is somehow sick any more! WAKE UP AMERICA...not everyone is heterosexual-plain and simple!Gay men and women are everywhere and are virtually indistinguishable from heterosexuals.WE ARE CONSENTING,TAX PAYING ADULTS.We deserve the exact same rights,protections and respect as any other citizens of this great country.To deny this in this day and age is the epitamy of injustice!!!!

Posted by: Richie Van Biljk | December 19, 2006 at 12:06 PM

Hey! I was off by a week!

Posted by: Kjell | December 16, 2006 at 03:01 PM

Lance Bass in a "very stable" relationship? Maybe he should check that out. Reichen has been married twice in 3 years. He dated one guy last July and was married to another by September. I'm waiting 4 more mos at most for him to get sick of Lance's Newly-Out Antics. Hasta...

Posted by: Kjell | July 28, 2006 at 09:36 PM

Here's the thing about Lance Bass coming out. It's completely great that he was able to do it in his own time and his own way. Yeah, there are a lot of famous people in the closet but then they get outed and they feel pressured to be a postiive gay celeb. Better to let someone come into their own and be able to just say, "Hey, I'm gay, in a stable relationship and happy." That gets the mainstreaming of gay life so much further. "Hey, I'm gay. Let's move on." That, for one, in my humble opinion has been the next phase of the freeing of letting people live life. The Provincetown and Abbey lifestyle are not what life is about exclusively. They should transform so that Anderson Cooper can come in and enjoy as much as George Michael. Ideally, being Gay is not just about sex and who takes what where but about being comfortable being who you are whether you want to identify as gay or straight,etc. It's not about being special one way or the other but about acceptance across the board and I think Lance handled it with a great deal of finesse and made me have a great feeling about myself and everyone else that being gay can be about being.

Posted by: Kurt | July 27, 2006 at 08:17 AM