One of the biggest problems, if not the biggest, we're facing in acquiring non-discrimination and marriage rights for gay people is gay people. Not necessarily you and me; but other gay people - the closeted ones. Every time a well-known person comes out of the closet, it helps our cause. Unfortunately, so few of them have done it. Instead, they stay in the closet, fueling rumor and speculation, building the notion that being labelled gay is bad.
Take Lance Bass, for example. There have been rumors about him being gay for years. Hell, I just assumed that after he appeared on two episodes of Kathy Griffin's show last year that he was waaaaay out. But, the mainstream press won't touch that one because he hasn't held a press conference at The Abbey to declare he's gay. Blogs and Web sites have been tossing around the rumor for a while, especially with the number of times he's been seen in public with Reichen Lheihmkhuhlh. But, because he hasn't called a press conference, "upstanding" reporters just won't touch it.
Well, as far as I'm concerned, he's out. He has made a public statement. In Provincetown this past weekend, I saw him with Reichen and some other super-gay friends at the Atlantic House. The A-House is a gay bar. In fact, the last straight person to step foot in there was Anderson Cooper.
The next day, I saw Lance at a general store with Reichen and the little gay friends. Other friends reported seeing him at the A-House other nights.
If you go to Provincetown, and go to a gay bar, out in the public where hundreds of people can see you (even if you are wearing an Adidas hat pulled down to your waist), you are OUT! If you're going to take advantage of some of the freedoms that gay people before you have opened up for you, you are OUT!
Disclaimer: I did not see him touching anyone's dick. And even if I had, that wouldn't mean he isn't like 25% of the straight guys out there - "experimental." But, did I see him in a gay bar in the gayest town on the gayest weekend in America? Yes. Have I heard other stories beyond the one I've told here? Yes. Have I outed him here? No. He has outed himself. And good for him! When he finally embraces it (hurry up already!), it will have a positive impact on all of our lives.